Straight Guys Find Lesbians Fascinating?
April 25, 2005 – 11:59 amThe Divine Ms. H. attended an Alix Olson show last night.
“Did you have fun being a lesbian?” I asked her this morning. The lack of bi inclusion in lesbian communities is an ongoing chat between us. “Were their lots of wimmins there?” Too, we’ve laughed about the varieties of spellings for woman juxtaposed against such biphobia.
“Well,” she answered, “at least you’re not one of those straight guys that says, “oh, lesbians! Can I watch?’”
I reflected for a moment. “No. I’ve already been a lesbian so they hold no allure for me.”
4 Responses to “Straight Guys Find Lesbians Fascinating?”
I once made a roomful of straight men, back in my student days, question their sexualities to the very core by pointing out that I considered it odd the heterosexual male-oriented porn they insisted on watching in front of me and some female friends was full of penises. But it was. Every frame, nearly, had penises in. Being a minor league devil, I asked them to look deeply and honestly into themselves and ask, were they enjoying the penises more than the pussy? Not one answered but they all started that whole straight male drag thing that straight males do - beer, birds, baloney - and they turned off the TV. Which was the point, allowing me and my friends to enjoy conversation without offensively domineering crap being played in the background. Besides, how can you enjoy a cup of tea and a few biscuits when some uncouth boys are giving you the background accompaniment of a video with some woman giving head? x
By Andy on Apr 27, 2005
Andy,
Brilliant!! Your story reminds of an early transition memory. I stood in line to pay for my groceries when I understood that most men’s attention is directed towards other men…very homoerotic..and that straight men spend as much time lookly at other men’s cocks as gay do.
By Jay Sennett on Apr 27, 2005
Boy, does your story about the Divine Ms. H’s experience bring up some baggage! As a very out, very dedicated, very lifelong bisexual, I can relate to the stifling biphobia of the supposed “LGbt” community (lower case letters for the latter to show how not-included we really are). Bis and trans folks have a lot in common that way - the larger groups want to erase or silence us because they have the mistaken impression that we’re somehow “fraternizing with the enemy”, or even worse, “passing”.
Personally, I abhor the need to devise alternative spellings (e.g., wombyn, womyn) as just another way the patriarchy is dividing and conquering us, separating us from the real issues of sexism, misogyny, homophobia, etc. in favor of branding. Personally, my self-definition as a woman does NOT rest anywhere near my uterus! It’s absurd.
I can’t tell you how many idiots have asked me the “Can I watch?” question - but it hasn’t been all straight men! Simply put, I think people are titillated by activities they aren’t in a position to enjoy themselves.
And again, my answer is: these folks need to grow up! At least as far as their expressions of sexuality are concerned.
By Jennifer Gee on Apr 27, 2005
Mature sexuality! Responsible Gender!
By Jay Sennett on Apr 27, 2005