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Top 10 Most Ignorant Things People Say to Me Because I’m Bisexual

September 23, 2005 – 1:37 pm

As my lovely partner and I slogged our way through another early-morning Michigan commute today, I remarked to her for no particular reason that I should blog about the ignorant things people have said to me over the years once they knew I was bisexual, and that I never want to hear again.

So here it is, for your early weekend amusement, Jennifer Gee’s Top 10 Most Ignorant Things People Say to Me Because I’m Bisexual in order of annoyance factor (NOTE: it’s not only, as John Waters has called them, “those filthy heteros” making these remarks):

10. Are you a lesbian now since your partner is a woman? [HINT for the challenged: NO!]
9. You just want it all, you greedy slut!
8. You’re just afraid to come out.
7. There’s no such thing as bisexuality.
6. You’re a “fence-sitter” who makes our community look bad.
5. It’s just an excuse for an unnaturally overactive sex drive.
4. You can “pass” for straight, so you’re not really queer.
3. Everyone’s bi - in college.
2. Can I watch you and your partner in bed?

and the winner (loser) is…

1. Which one of you plays the man???

Now go forth, and be educated. Happy weekend!
Jennifer
xxoo

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  1. 4 Responses to “Top 10 Most Ignorant Things People Say to Me Because I’m Bisexual”

  2. Whooaaa!

    What about, “can you really be monogamous????”

    and no. 10 fascinates me.

    The FtM equivalent:
    A partner becomes heterosexual (never bi) when her partner transitions…..

    By Jay Sennett on Sep 23, 2005

  3. I stand corrected, your entry should be #11 on the top 10! :)
    It should be mentioned that #10 was asked of me by a man who had formerly been my romping partner when he learned of my relationship with my sweet Babboo. I was like, “Are you KIDDING me??!” The only thing that had changed about me was my significant other!!!

    Seems like we Bs and Ts have more and more in common all the time.

    By Jennifer Gee on Sep 23, 2005

  4. Funny. I don’t know anyone who changed their identity because their partner transitioned.

    It’s like when I’m dating a trans guy and get the “so what are you now?” questions. “So you’re bi” is pretty common too. Actually, I’m not.

    By maria on Sep 23, 2005

  5. Maria,

    I don’t know anyone who changed either. What fascinates me about the question, though, is why people think a person might….

    Perhaps a form of sexism. You know, a way for everything to continue to revolve around masculinity….

    Thanks!

    By Jay Sennett on Sep 26, 2005

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