Comments on: The Lazy Person’s Way to a Happy Transgender http://jaysennett.com/2009/11/the-lazy-persons-way-to-a-happy-transgender/ Intelligent adventures through the heart of gender, transgender and others kinds of gender Mon, 14 Jun 2010 20:09:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Jay http://jaysennett.com/2009/11/the-lazy-persons-way-to-a-happy-transgender/comment-page-1/#comment-18908 Jay Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:48:03 +0000 http://jaysennett.com/?p=1725#comment-18908 Hi, Thanks for commenting. While it may seem obvious that one should go by the pronouns that match their presentation, it isn't that obvious. Two of the contributors to Visible: A Femmethology both present as female but use zie and hir as their preferred pronouns. That's why I believe it is best to ask. Naming, which happens to some degree with pronouns, is a different from presentation. Unless I know for sure, I tend to refer to people in the third person. It's a habit I developed as a way to avoid foot-in-mouth syndrome. Hi,

Thanks for commenting.

While it may seem obvious that one should go by the pronouns that match their presentation, it isn’t that obvious.

Two of the contributors to Visible: A Femmethology both present as female but use zie and hir as their preferred pronouns.

That’s why I believe it is best to ask. Naming, which happens to some degree with pronouns, is a different from presentation.

Unless I know for sure, I tend to refer to people in the third person. It’s a habit I developed as a way to avoid foot-in-mouth syndrome.

]]> By: JoanieH http://jaysennett.com/2009/11/the-lazy-persons-way-to-a-happy-transgender/comment-page-1/#comment-18907 JoanieH Wed, 25 Nov 2009 06:38:58 +0000 http://jaysennett.com/?p=1725#comment-18907 From my perspective, if I am dressed to the nines, my hair is done up nice, I have modest yet attractive earrings - in short - my presentation is fashionably female, and as I walk into the party why should anyone have to ask what form of pronouns I prefer? Even if I am wearing jeans, a low cut top, that shows a bit of my cleavage, again my makeup and hair are appropriate to my dress and demeanor, sandals with a pedicure and nail polish, shaved legs, why should anyone ask me which pronouns to use? I think that it should be really apparent that you go by the way the person presents. I have seen some very masculine females of natal origin that look more masculine than I ever did, yet there is no confusion as to how to address them! Taking the fact that I dress and present totally female, and my voice registers in the female range, shouldn't that be enough clues as to how I prefer to be addressed? (BTW...All of my gender markings on all of my documents state "F") Wink-wink, nudge-nudge. How do you address any other woman/man you meet? Do you have to ask how they prefer to be addressed in the second or third person? From my perspective, if I am dressed to the nines, my hair is done up nice, I have modest yet attractive earrings – in short – my presentation is fashionably female, and as I walk into the party why should anyone have to ask what form of pronouns I prefer? Even if I am wearing jeans, a low cut top, that shows a bit of my cleavage, again my makeup and hair are appropriate to my dress and demeanor, sandals with a pedicure and nail polish, shaved legs, why should anyone ask me which pronouns to use?

I think that it should be really apparent that you go by the way the person presents. I have seen some very masculine females of natal origin that look more masculine than I ever did, yet there is no confusion as to how to address them! Taking the fact that I dress and present totally female, and my voice registers in the female range, shouldn’t that be enough clues as to how I prefer to be addressed? (BTW…All of my gender markings on all of my documents state “F”) Wink-wink, nudge-nudge. How do you address any other woman/man you meet? Do you have to ask how they prefer to be addressed in the second or third person?

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